The Parenting Mistake That Makes Teens Push You Away | Oprah’s Life Class | Oprah Winfrey Network

11 thoughts on “The Parenting Mistake That Makes Teens Push You Away | Oprah’s Life Class | Oprah Winfrey Network”

  1. Mother has not TRAINED her 16-year-old son from birth how to THINK and ACT in his OWN best interests (meaning stay away from the bad fruitage of smoking, drinking, drugs and sex, which she’s also NOT done her YOUNGER children) that she wants him to FEAR her for the teenage temptations she knows to be all around him, but about which she has feared to warn him!

  2. I loved the post and I love reading these blogs for parenting and helping kids get life skills. Does anybody know of a good website or resource that does lessons or activities for kids? I feel like I can tell my daughter all of these things, but it’s just a “lecture” and she doesn’t take me seriously.

  3. I’m not a big fan of Dr. Shefali. I’ve heard her speak before. Parents DO contribute to the anxieties of kids by over emphasizing grades, clean rooms, chores, peer groups, etc., in favor of just loving their children for who they are. But teaching children responsibility means raising expectations, which is uncomfortable for anybody, but especially kids. I know she has to answer these audience questions quickly, but her suggestion is way to simplistic and places all of the blame on the parent. Maybe if she had more time she would be more thorough.

    Teens also bring plenty of that anxiety to the relationship with parents themselves and it comes from American teen culture outside the home. American teen culture is laden with self doubt and plenty of mean-spiritedness within teen peer groups. American peer teen culture is very toxic. Bullying and teasing are major problems in the country. It takes many forms and it is a major contributor to teen angst and anxiety.

  4. I’ve definitely had challenges with my kids, but something that has worked well for me is to take the time when they make a mistake and use it as a learning opportunity.

    I went to a site called and they have a video that talks about how to teach kids life skills…

    In essence, I find out what mistake they’ve made; I often share a story about how I struggled with it; I relate why it’s important to something my kids find important; and then I let my kids talk about how they would do something different and we have a discussion.

    I’ve learned more about my two boys in the last 8 months than I thought possible!

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